Thank you for reading and sharing that experience. I agree. I didn’t get into this in this article, but I think the focus on intention also has a lot to do with the binary thinking of Evangelicals and their fear of being in good standing with God (aka living in “God’s will for their lives” and being saved). If you think you’re saved and therefore God has his hand on your life’s path, it’s too disconcerting to realize that you might have caused harm (and thus be “out of God’s will”) and have to face the implications of that. The implications are that things aren’t as black and white and dualistic as Evangelicals are taught. That you can have meant well and caused harm is really, really hard for Evangelicals to understand because it means they might not be “saved” after all (in the way they understood).