Couldn't agree more - thank you for writing this. I've been thinking about writing on the topic of spanking soon as well. I have a 3 year old and we aren't spanking her, not only because it's abusive, but because it doesn't work. I was spanked as a child and I definitely learned nothing from the experience other than to be afraid. It's so important not to teach kid's that they can be hurt "for their own good."